I was at the supermarket the other day and I wanted to buy a bag of chips. I headed into the snack aisle, my eyes scanning the shelves, my hands not knowing whether to reach for potato or corn. (I adore them all.)
“Are we getting chips?” my husband asked.
“Ummm, maybe. I was thinking about it. Do YOU want some?” came my response.
Our conversation continued…
Him: “Sure, if you want them.”
Me: “I don’t really mind.” (I did.) “We’ll only get them if you feel like them.”
Him: “Let’s not worry then, I don’t really feel like chips tonight.”
Me: “Are you sure? You might want some later. Maybe we should get them just in case…but only if YOU want.”
Can you see what was happening here? Despite the fact that I wanted chips I wasn’t willing to say the simple words “I’m going to buy myself a bag.”
Because I didn’t want to be responsible for making that decision.
I catch myself doing this from time-to-time, outsourcing my decisions so that it’s not my fault if things don’t pan out.
It’s a habit I don’t like and one that I’m changing, but it still catches me out every now and again.
Home cooking is a simple decision: you either cook or you don’t.
Exercising is a simple decision: you either do it or you don’t.
Drinking wine on a Tuesday night is a simple decision: you either drink it or you don’t.
These are some of the decisions that I battle with, and that I might pass off to someone else, even though the “right” choice is both personal and situational. Some days exercising is the best decision, other days it’s not. Sometimes getting take-out is great, other times it’s not.
You might not always make the right decision, but you do have to be willing to make a decision, especially if taking control of your health is important to you.
This month I’m committed to making my own healthy living decisions, with authority and without guilt, to see how the choices that I’m making affect my health, my happiness and the quality of my life.
I’ll keep you posted on how it goes.