Remember a while back that I told you that I struggled with healthy decision making? Well, I’ve been working on it and wanted to report back.
To quickly recap, I used to outsource certain lifestyle decisions (usually those that may be seen as “less healthy”), so that I could have the experience without being responsible for the outcome.
Whether the question was to get takeout for dinner, skip a workout, watch a movie instead of doing housework, or have a glass of wine on Tuesday night, while I may have wanted to do the activity, I didn’t want to be the one who suggested it.
So instead of using my voice, as an independent thinker and 21st-century woman, I relied on my sneaky wifely ways to make my husband choose — this was basically an insurance policy that said it was his fault if I felt bad about myself later on.
I mean, how crummy is that? I shouldn’t even be admitting it publicly, but I decided to fess up in case you’re doing it too.
Every week I speak with women who blame their situation on circumstances they believe are beyond their control:
- “My co-worker brought donuts to the office…”
- “My husband wanted to get popcorn at the movies…”
- “The weather wasn’t nice enough to go for a walk…”
Sure, these external challenges may impact your decision making, but at the end of the day, it is still your choice to eat the donut, share the popcorn or skip the walk.
And you know what? Making that decision is fine as long as it’s YOU who makes it.
Since I wrote about this concept earlier in the year I’ve been very intentional about making decisions that will benefit my long-term health goals while also nourishing my short-term lifestyle desires.
What I’ve found is that I feel more in control of my actions and outcomes by simply being the one to choose.
I feel confident saying NO to certain things without feeling deprived, and I can experience great satisfaction from saying YES, without the situation then spiraling out of control and leaving me worse-for-wear.
Because by making the first decision, to say yes or no, I then give myself permission to make all the following decisions. For example: how much I eat, how long I participate in an activity, and when I want to do something different…that’s all up to me.
As it turns out, decision making is liberating!
This new habit is one that I’m sticking with, so now I want to throw the gauntlet to you.
- Have you been “going with the flow” a little too regularly in your own life?
- Are you outsourcing your decisions (and then feeling regretful and perhaps even resentful)?
- Are you willing to do something about it?
This week I challenge you to pay attention to both the decisions that you’re making AND those that you’re avoiding.
Ask yourself, what choices do you shy away from, and why?
Finally, commit to making a new decision — just one to start — and put yourself back in the driver’s seat of your own health and happiness.
Of course, as always, let me know how you go by leaving a comment below.